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I think I love these Sam Edelman "York" Platform pumps...I can see myself throwing them on with a pair of jeans to spice things up, or a nice skirt /dress....*sigh*...

Moving right along :). First of all it is very hard to think/write when one is happy, at least in my case. I am trying to think of deep meaningful things to discuss/write and I can do is sit with a stupid smize/smile on my face thinking about someone :).

Seriously though lets see...ok perfect we can talk about fashion and appropriate and inappropriate fashion for different age groups. Basically this topic has been on my mind since my mom saw me in a short dress and went slightly ballistic...her reasoning? At my age I need to be more (i forget the word she used) but basically no more short skirts blah blah. Now I am a big proponent of the wear what accentuates your assets campaign. If you have it...flaunt it, whatever it may be. For me this it happens to be my chestitisis, my butt and my legs. All outfits of mine cater to some aspect of these "its" unless I happen to be going out with my father in which case a trash bag...sorry a LONG trash bag will suffice! (Yeah he dont play those games!!) Lol...actually hes become more relaxed and my mom has become more uptight with my fashion choices...go figure!

Anyways so yeah usually I flaunt what I have. When I was younger I have to admit my fashion sense was just trashy (Reason 1230405050 I am dreading having a daughter) but as the years have progressed I have tried (key word here being tried) to let my fashion evolve into something that is unique and age appropriate. I love clothes, I love fashion, I love anything to do with fashion (in an alternate life I would be working in the fashion industry) so it truly bugs me when I cant seem to get "things" right. For this year classy is the main theme. Whatever I have on, I want it to look classy and thats my main goal. I think so far so good but Lord give me a job so I can go shopping for some big girl clothes soon.

So (yes my mind is all over the place) but my main point is this. Is there an expiration date on certain styles and fashion? That is, are more people of the school of thought (like my mother) that once you go past 25 short and tight clothes should not be a part of your wardrobe? Or are you of my school of thought which says if you learn/know how to put things together properly then there are no fashion limitations? ...Think about it...

Get thee behind me Satan..(btw dont look at my ass while you are back there!!) *smh*

Ok I promise to name my first pet Fendi if someone somewhere will make this bag a reality for me. Yes this is a Fendi tote, dont you love how unassuming it is? Understated fashion people...UNDERSTATED!!! Now if you feel like losing a kidney on my behalf to get this bag, it is "only" $2390 at Saks...*cough*...yes that money can feed a whole village somewhere so I will just dream yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!

Ok so I was really counting on something happening today, I prayed prayed and prayed and didn't sleep a wink waiting for the confirmation...well it didn't happen. GRRRRRRRR!! Normally this would be where I turn off everything and just stay in bed (or go to the mall and waste money I don't have). But not today...I am going to do everything I would usually do and not let this beat me down :)...ok so todays topic is a fun one, I am going to share with you 5 blogs/fashion websites that I have fallen in love with. They are placed not in any particular order of importance...check them out and see if you fall in love too...:)

1. Outnet.com

Says it is the world's most fashionable fashion outlet devoted to selling discounted designer womenswear and accessories. I like this site cause I am able to go see what "designers" are putting out and then find those trends before others jump on the fads :)...always puts you ahead of the fashion crowd.

2. Shefinds.com

I love this website because it usually puts together a boatload of fashion resources that I can use. Like what the best make up is, best sun screen, where to get cheaper options of a look etc. you really could spend all day on this site.

3. Ruelala.com

I love ruelala cause sometimes they have some really awesome designers for really cheap...you know the BCBG skirt I have been lusting after? Well its $128 (i think normally), found on Ruelala for $58 bucks...(still didnt buy it though...dude I am unemployed is that skirt going to feed me?...maybe when I start working)...oh and they have La perla at absolutely unbelievable prices...so sign up and check out the boutiques.

4. Smartbargains.com

When it is good at Smart bargains it is really good, when its not, its just like a department store (and we know how I dislike department store prices). Sign up though you get emails everyday with "special" deals. Like I said when it is good it is really good...I think I have gotten designer shoes for $10.00 there before :)

and last but not least

5. Dealigg.com

One of my main "go to" sites. Not necessarily only fashion related has the info on steals and deals all over the web. :)

Hopefully this is will motivate you to go waste some money :)...YAY!!!!

Little Green eyed Monster...

I absolutely love the way Narciso Rodriguez designs his outfits. Theres always a little something to push the outfit to that sexy realm...and at $720 this dress right here is a steal...just not for me lol...I would have to STEAL it!! Now with thoughts of larceny put aside lets free style...

While someone (no names mentioned) was remembering her anniversary today it suddenly hit me that I haven't been in a relationship in a while... whilst you are in school trying to finish 12 credits (when the maximum amount of credits is 9) the last thing on your mind is a boy/man/boytoy. But suddenly when all that is gone if you are anything like me you stop and think oh wow ...where did the time go...I used to be such a social butterfly when did my wings get clipped and why wasnt I informed? I guess I could technically call someone and go out etc. etc. but the spirit isnt even willing and I think thats my biggest shocker. But then again do you blame me? The same old tired ass guys trying to convince you they own this and that and yet they are in wrinkled shirts...or little boys spilling drinks all over you trying to "spit" game...sitting right here with my slow jamz playing is exactly where I want to be...I think this is why ultimately I dont want to move to a big town or a party city where I feel I will be obligated to appear for "events"...Ill let you in on a secret...I would rather be in a little village (with no snow) than live somewhere like NYC...if I want to party Ill go party but I dont want to piss where I sleep or however that saying goes lol.

Ok I have written so much and this wasnt even the topic I wanted to go off on. Lets talk about something fun and useful...JEALOUSY! I have been extremely blessed in my life to not have jealousy be one of those things that have bugged me. Even in relationships I always told the guy I will not get jealous Ill get even and after the first time I got them back they didnt like it and didnt give me a reason to and everything was good. But yeah jealousy is an issue I have never had to seriously dealt with so imagine my surprise when today in scanning my life and the things going on in other peoples lives the first thing that crossed my mind was...how come this person has a job, or a man, or their papers and I dont. Why does everything have to be so hard for me (yeah the usual woe is me speech)...STOP THE PRESS!!! What the hell was I doing? My life could have gone so completely the other way...my graduation my purely by the grace of God because technically I missed the date to defend and during my defence one of my committee members was trying to be difficult...but you see human nature...once I got that hurdle crossed I had forgotten about how I begged God that I really really really wanted it more than anything else....and today I have the nerve to turn around and ask why me?...The voice that came back to remind me how very different things would be if I had not graduated shook me right back into reality.

Jealousy may be a human emotion but one I think we can control. Do not let this little evil emotion take control of your life, it just prevents you from focusing on other positive things you can be doing with yourself and your time because you are so busy worrying about everyone else and busy counting their blessings. No one knows what the other is truly going through in their lives...we only see the facade they want us to see...so dont be like me and fall into jealousy's trap it is not worth it...I leave you now with this quote that I use to realign the senses when I start getting stuck on stupid...hope it helps you as much as it helps me :)

Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value. Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point - that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you. There is only one alternative - self-value. If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved. You will always think it's a mistake or luck. Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within. Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security. Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them. ~Jennifer James